But it was something that my instructor, Billye Johnson, told me on the first day of class that liberated me. She said, "It's like crafting an Afghan [dress]. You design each little square individually and then sew all of them together." Likewise, she explained, you can write about particular moments in your life, and then find a way to weave them together. Somehow, that simple analogy freed me to write. I didn't have to know how the story would end before I continued writing; I just had to start. I felt so free to let my creative urges dance with abandon. Suddenly, I could enjoy the creative process and liberate my desire to tell my story.
One of my classmates shared her writing, a very moving piece, and then explained how she had originally intended to focus on a different aspect of that story. Our instructor commented that oftentimes you may start out writing about one thing, but then your muse may take you somewhere else.
The funny thing is that I always took the Afghan approach in many other aspects of my life, especially when I would choreograph a dance. I would just let the music slip inside me, like a welcome breeze on a muggy summer's day. I let it move me, inspire me, and surprise me, without worrying about the final outcome. This approach always works best, for when I try to plan the dance too much in advance, it may look beautiful, but when I dance it, it may not express what the music makes me feel. And when the feeling is gone, all is lost, for the audience and the dancer alike.
I wonder what else we could learn from applying this approach to other aspects of our lives. Maybe we just need to start with one Afghan square, one story, one step, and allow the music of life to guide us toward our next step. Because when we think we know the whole dance in advance, who we'll marry, when and how we'll become parents, what we'll study, where we'll work, and where and for whom we will live our lives, our muse will oftentimes take us somewhere else. Maybe this is the magic of life, rather than its curse. For how exciting would it all be, and how much would we learn, if we knew in advance where and how the story would end?





